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Susan Weis-Bohlen's avatar

A beautiful essay. A meditation on food, choice and desire! Thank you!

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Lisa's avatar

Wow this was interesting and powerful to me!! I was definitely able to relate.

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Lala's avatar

I'm glad I'm not the only one with this train of thought. Great read! Really enjoyed your writing style.

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Joy Manning's avatar

Thank you so much, Lala! I appreciate your reading :)

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Casey Barber's avatar

(I know it also sometimes means, “The recipe developer didn’t include this, but when we were taking the photos we thought the food was ugly and needed a pretty decoration.) LOLOLOLOLOL!

And also, piggybacking on Kelsey, remember your 3 line! You can try it out and see if you really desire it. My MG energy probably sends you in weird directions too.

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Kelsey Abbott's avatar

Dear Joy: you are perfect and I adore you. As a projector, you feel and amplify other people’s desires so no 💩 you have trouble knowing what you actually desire! It’s possible for you (as with the olives), but it’ll take a whole lot of presence, practice and emptying out other people’s energy. So, ya know, you’ve gotta be all-in on it.

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Marygrace Taylor's avatar

That phrase has always caught me too. It's so loaded!

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Kristin Donnelly's avatar

Love this 😍

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Joy Manning's avatar

Thank you. I know you overthink recipe words as much as I do :)

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Kristin Donnelly's avatar

I do and then sometimes still fall into this kind of recipe lingo.

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Lindsey Otto's avatar

I love this essay! As a words person and food person, I appreciate how you examine this intersection and the power it has. It's so true. "If desired," always sounded so lavish to me, in the old-timey "dahling" sort of manner. How strange the things our minds do!

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Dee's avatar

Beautifully said. Thank you so much for this essay.

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Dianne Jacob's avatar

What a great essay! I love the way you wove in the theme of desire. It's my kind of rant, along with other odd recipe speak that I cover also, such as this one: https://diannejacob.substack.com/p/on-taste-and-adjust-the-seasoning

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Joy Manning's avatar

Thank you Dianne! What a wonderful compliment coming from you! I love your rant as well. When I'm making someone else's recipe I want to be told what to do :)

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